Making friends with girls can be good for your personal life, because they can tell you stuff no other dude can. It’s cool to give up your pride and ask for advice if a girl is chill – girls love it when dudes ask for their input, and they’ll give it to you straight. Girls can give good advice about other girls. Girls also make a really good wingman. For example, if you see a hot babe at the club with her busted friend and you want to talk to her then take your female friend and chat them both up, before moving onto the hottie. Not only does this make you look less of a creeper who’s trying to hit on some girl he doesn’t know but also actually does the opposite, and makes you look like a cool guy who hangs out with chicks. Just make it clear that your friend is not your girlfriend. But what if you want her to be your girlfriend, or you just want a night in the sack? It’s totally possible, but it takes some maneuvering.
What It Means (Or Doesn’t)
Having a female friend can mean a lot of things. Maybe you’re dealing with a girl you’ve only hung out with a few times that’s an acquaintance; a chick you met through another friend; or your childhood friend. Be careful here. The less you know a girl, the easier it is to have a friends with benefits arrangement. Things get messy if you’re actually legit or long-term friends with her. So, be careful.
Set Your Boundaries
Things to Watch Out For
If your boundaries are being breached, it’s time to quit. If you just want something casual, the moment things start to change is when you bail. For example, let’s say you occasionally hang out with a hot chick and you start getting down and dirty. That’s cool, but if she suddenly starts texting you 50 times a day about something cute her cat did, it should be a red alert for you. Don’t go there. I mean, if you decided originally to score with a girl that was already texting you 50 times a day about her cat, then nothing has changed.