Nice guys finish last, as the saying goes, and we honestly don’t want to be that guy. Girls these days also associate the “nice guy” complex with a douche bag who’s just trying to get into their pants, so let’s avoid being that dude. One thing we’ve learned: women like honesty, but only selectively. A girl knows when she’s being lied to, so don’t try to make yourself into something you’re not, or hide your intentions. Though, there’s a difference between being subtle and lying. You don’t have to admit that you’re cruising for a hookup, but also, don’t lie to a chick and say you want a long term relationship if all you want is a night in the sack. It just creates drama. The “nice guy” lies more than he’s smooth. He wants to make the girl feel like she’s talking to a friend and let her be emotionally vulnerable, and then go in for the lay. But that only bites you in the ass in the long run, because then, that girl is going to be all up in your business.
Honesty and Scoring
Nice guys hide their intentions, but you don’t have to. If you meet a chick at a bar, be smooth, but make it clear you’re looking to hook up. Compliment her in a way that’s friendly but not over the top, but don’t invite her to tell her life story and the tragic tale of her last relationship. This is where the nice guy crap usually comes in. Make it clear you want to score, but don’t be rude. If a girl is DTF, she’ll let you know.
Offering to Walk Her Home
If you offer to walk a chick home, and then you try to get with her, she’s going to mace you. This is a typical nice guy maneuver. Some chick is leaving by herself, and a dude feigns interest in her safety and offers to walk with her. Now, again, this is all a matter of context. If a babe with whom you have barely talked, agrees to walk with you, it probably means she is feeling nervous about going home by herself. This is when it’s creepy to try and hit on her. But if you have been talking to a chick all night, and you ask her if she wants to leave and you’ll walk her home, make it obvious that you mean to bang her. Don’t be unclear about it, and she’ll appreciate the honesty and not feel creeped out.
Hanging Out with Her Friends
This is the type of nice guy thing where you pretend you’re not interested in a girl or any of her friends sexually, and you’re just hanging around to have fun. Don’t do this. Girls know when a dude is creeping on them, and even if a nice guy succeeds in ingratiating himself into a pack of chicks at a club and they actually believe he’s only there to dance, the moment he starts trying to pick one of them up, he’s done. This is how you inspire scorn in chicks. Don’t cater to her friends, but be polite, it’s all about presentation. Offer to buy her a drink, not her entire posse.