So you’re dating a woman and you find out that she’s married – game over, right? Wrong, my friend! Dating a married woman can be one of the most exhilarating experiences of your life, as long as you know how to play it safe and not get caught. Mastering the art of being discreet, accepting that you’re not the only guy in her life, and not expecting too much out of her are essential if you’re wanting to stay with her when she’s married, so listen up!
She’s Looking for Fulfillment
If she’s looking for guys even though she’s married, then clearly she’s missing something in her marriage. She might be missing a healthy sex life, and is looking to fulfill that in you – score one for you! If you want a no-strings-attached, strictly sexual relationship, this is the perfect situation. The key here is discretion – don’t send suspicious texts, don’t call at odd hours, and make sure that your name in her phone is something plain. If she’s receiving texts and calls from Cindy rather than Dave, her husband isn’t going to be suspicious. Keep in mind that she can only tell her husband that her mom was calling at 2 in the morning so many times; just be cautious.
You’re Not Her Top Priority
Don’t worry if you don’t see her for a while – she’s probably busy. Being in an affair means that you aren’t top priority, so don’t be mad about it. If you call and bother her too much, her husband will get suspicious. Let her call you! It’s not that she wants to ignore you; it’s that she just hasn’t had the time! Don’t expect her to get back to you right away; she’s probably just waiting to get time to call you. Also avoid discussing plans over text in case her husband is the nosy type. Even if she has you under a girl’s name in her phone, it might seem a little fishy if she’s trying to keep her texts secret. A text trail can land you both in a lot of trouble; so keep personal conversations for phone calls only. If you really need to set up plans, come up with a sort of code to use over text. Maybe “meeting up for brunch” actually means “come to my place on your lunch break,” or “visiting her aunt” means “I’ve booked a hotel for the weekend.” It’s all about discretion and keeping her hubby from finding out that you’re getting some of the goods.